How do we as women think of ourselves? Our community? Our personal lives? and our place in this world?
How many times the women in our lives do one of the following when it comes to guys:
- Spend hours getting ready to just go outside their door so they have that perfect look whether it is putting on pounds of makeup, changing outfits several times or changing their accessories, or trying to make themselves just a little more sexy.
- Although they may not be boy obsessed like a 12 year old, you have a friend that talks about marriage on a weekly basis: whether it is who is getting married next, when they want to get married, what their wedding will be like (when they are single), and worrying about never getting married, etc.
- Some think they can change guys or are waiting for them to grow up in some way
- They pine after a guy that has no interest and thinks one day he will come to the conclusion that I am the one, or he will dump his current girl and date me.
- They let these supposed amazing guys treat them like crap: stand them up, get drunken disorderly and you have to call a cab, speaks disrespectfully etc.
- When a guy does walk away they do one of the following: they cry for months on end, they see their overall worth decrease because they got dumped and are no longer with their man. They put their life on hold to heal or adjust. And they care when he starts dating again and in some cases obsess when he is with someone for years after.
Now we all have at least one friend who has experienced at least something mentioned above with it comes to guys. Honestly We are all guilty of one of the above at one time or another.
Women are also affected by other women and our friendship
- Women can be more competitive with other women whether it is the work environment or the personal.
- Women gossip about other women they know or acquaintance both good and bad
- Women can become jealous of the new woman with their former boyfriend
- Women compare themselves in both attractiveness and intelligence to other women
- Women can be harder on other women both personally and professionally
I wish I was talking about teenagers, but unfortunately I am not...
I am talking about women who have their bachelors degree, their masters degrees and even starting PhD programs. These women who are professionally ambitious, driven, and successful. Women who have jobs and solid career paths. Women who are the future of America.
But these same professional successful women daily well being or personal happiness is very tired to their relationship status, friendships and attractiveness.
Why do women regardless of education, socio-economic status, race, etc. have their worth, self confidence, tied to their relationships?
How many times does have a fight with a boyfriend or spouse lead to bad day?
How many times does a fight with a friend ruin your day?
How many times does a hurting friend affect you? Or even a close acquaintance?
How many times does a first kiss make a day great?
How many times does a dress that makes look attractive or in style make a great day?
How many times does a spending time with friend or boyfriend make us feel great?
Why do women react this way? Why do these women rise and fall with relationships and friendship when men don’t? Why is it about being sexy or stylish? Why is it about being attractive?
Some of it is women are just more relational and tied by friendships.
Another major factor is the messages women are inundated with in the media and advertising. I will examine how the media shapes our perception of ourselves and other women in my next three blogs.
Media and relationships
TV and Movie characters- yesterday, today and the trend
Who are our real role models and who does the media think are our role models
